You should be able to come and go as you please, particularly as a function of your job. But marriage is not a solo trip. Your husband has to decide if his skewed belief is worth sacrificing your union for. If he remains “my way or the highway” about this, then the answer is the highway.

My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity. (He’s speaking from personal experience.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is bothered that their husband doesn't allow them to go on vacations with friends.

Dear Eric: My husband and I dated long distance for a year before we married. During this time, he told me he had post-SSRI syndrome. After stopping the medication, he could still “perform” but no longer desires sex. He said before the SSRI his drive was fine.

According to this letter writer’s husband, all solo trips — even for work — open the door to infidelity. Dear Eric: My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary,

"My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity."

This angers my husband immensely. He tells me “I’m crazy” and that I need to “pull up my big girl panties.” He’s also called me some vile names which I can’t repeat here. I know it’s irrational and I can’t understand why it is happening.