I have gifted her several items. Recently, I got her a TV for her bedroom. A week passed and I asked what she did with the smaller one I gave her. She said, “Oh, I sold it for 30 bucks.” I was floored. I paid $200 for it.

I have a girlfriend that helps me by driving me to out-of-town doctor appointments. I’m old enough to be her mother. She is disabled and on a small income. I’m blessed with a healthy retirement income.

Instead, try telling her that you had hoped the TV would make her happier, but you understand. Ask if, in the future – say for birthdays or holidays – a gift card or cash would go further. Dear Eric: The most important family member to me is my brother, the only person who’s been there since my birth and never let me down.